Extra Visitations

This past Thursday we had one of our extra visits with the boys older brothers. We met them and ate at CiCi's pizza. All of the boys really enjoyed themselves.

However, the older boys did some things like picked up Big Boy (who weighs 39lbs) and put him on his shoulders. Kept sticking their tongues out at the boys that we have. Kept trying to take our boys off around the restaurant by themselves without asking.

Each time we corrected the older boys because their foster mom just sat there like nothing was going on. At the end right before we left she looked at us and said I know there has been some times that I should have corrected ****** and ******* this evening but I am trying to avoid ****** having one of his moments.

This was just crazy to me. She does not want the 9 year old who has ADHD and some other behavioral issues to have a moment so instead she does absolutely nothing and then wonders why he does not listen to her!!!!

At the end Big Boy cries really bad. We have a had time with both of the boys thinking they can do whatever they want and not listen Thursday night after the visit and even worse on Friday with Big Boy now back to sticking his tongue out.

I have a feeling these extra visits may only be once a month or every two weeks at the most!

The other foster mom tells me (in the middle of Big Boy screaming and crying at the end) that the older boys had a phone visit with the parents the day before. She says maybe this would be good for your boys or for your boys to call and told with the older boys that I have. I told her I just was not sure about that because each visit is a set back Especially for Big Boy.