The boys parents have a supervised one hour vistit, once weekly with the two boys we have and their 9 and 10 yr old brothers that are placed in another foster home.
We have had two visits so far. Both visits have taken place late afternoon on Friday. The new social worker told me that most likely the day will change going forward. She also mentioned that we may skip this week (not sure why) and they make up the next week with a two hour visit.
I start talking to the boys about this visit the afternoon before the visit. We then talk about the visit on the way to daycare on the morning of the visit. Reminding the boys that Pops (this is what the boys call my husband) and I will be taking them to see their mom, dad, and brothers when we pick them up after nap time.
When we arrive at daycare the boys get so excited....especially the 3 yr old....that they are going to see their family. It is such a happy exciting moment for them and we can feel their love for their family.
How quickly this excitement fades at the end of the visit. Each visit so far has ended in uncontrollable crying. So incredibly sad. The social workers have told us that it will get better for the boys as time goes along....this will remain to be seen.
Poor things go from such a happy place to such a low place all in an hours time:(
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what do the boys call you?
ReplyDeletei was fortunate that i haven't had to deal with crying after the visit is over. kinda a sad view into what the kids think of their parents but i worry for the day i have a crier. i will break my heart.
The boys call us Nana and Pops. The screaming and crying is heart breaking:(
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