Meet the Parents

So instead of introducing us to the parents the first five minutes of the visit as the sw had mentioned she decided to introduce us at the end of the visit. We were taking to the play room where visits take place.

Mom and Dad were called out into the hallway where we were with the social worker. All four boys could see us all interacting.

The parents were as filthy as they always are...but if I remember right I think the Dad had actually shaved.

In spite of the parents being so filthy (and I don't mean just dirty) my husband and I both shook their hands just as we would when we meet anyone.

The Mom asked if I was using pull ups on Lil Man. I told her no. She said he could wear underwear all day and evening....only needed a diaper for a nap and bedtime. I explained to her that we have not really been working on potty training because I thought both boys had been through so much that I did not want to make a more stressful situation for either of them. I did tell her that he uses the potty every night when they take baths and we talk about it when Lil Boy uses the potty.

Actually, I was thinking to myself.....if she was leaving him in underwear all the time ....that explained why he smelled the way he did when he came to us.

I did share with her though that I would not use pull ups on him because I just don't like them. She seemed relieved by this....

I started to give them updates on how the boys have been doing and could not help but to notice that in the one or two minutes we had beent talking that Lil Boy had not stopped crying. His oldest brother and the other sw were trying to comfort him but it was not working.

I looked at the boys sw and asked if it was ok if I got Lil Boy from the playroom since he was so upset. Explained that I did not want him to just be left to cry....that I felt bad for him. She said of course. I went into the room....literally five or six steps from where we were all standing and got Lil Boy.

In my mind I had pictured this as an uncomfortable situation. You know holding and taking care of someone elses child right in front of them. But it was not uncomfortable at all. Then Lil Man started crying and I got him. Mom then took both of them and held them as we continued to talk and then she handed Lil Man to the Dad.

They asked if they could bring the boys bikes to the office for the boys to bring to our house. We said yes and they are suppose to bring them this Thursday. I sure hope so cause Lil Boy keeps talking about it and is really looking forward to it.

We told them we took the boys to see Shrek and Karate Kid. We shared with them that they boys call us Nana and Pops. That we respected that they are their parents and we remind the boys everyday that their mom and dad love them. This seemed to set well with the parents...who knows but it is right for the boys and it is right in our hearts.

Overall I think it went as well as could be expected and that makes me happy for the boys.